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Reflections on 25 Years Together

Maybe I wasn’t very smart when I got married– after all, I wasn’t even 20 years old. I have, however, been incredibly blessed. Honestly, I had no idea what I was getting into. Like everyone else in the world, I had no clue how life would turn out. In my case, things have turned out a million times better than I ever imagined!

We celebrated 25 years of marriage last month. This weekend we are blessed by a few days home alone together as both our sons are elsewhere. These opportunities to reflect have reminded me how blessed I am. They have made me fall in love all over again. I’ve been nearly giddy at the opportunity to spend time with Garry. I’ve been amazed at where our sons are, and how little we really had to do with it.

On the other hand, I’ve been humbled at the realization of how different life could be. Those times when I’ve been upset and I could have allowed the anger to grow. The times Garry has forgiven me when he had every right to hold a grudge. The times I’ve been disappointed and could have kept blaming him for how things were. The times I’ve failed my husband and he has chosen to love me anyway. The ways my parenting skills have fallen short and Garry’s have filled the gaps. The ways we have both failed and yet God’s grace has redeemed what we deserved to lose.

Beyond reflecting on success and failure, I’ve enjoyed pondering the journey we’ve taken thus far. The early years of marriage when we were just two adults, free to choose how to spend our time after work. Trips across the USA and Venezuela, by car and plane and bus. Endless dreaming and planning, hard work and relaxing. The joy at the arrival of our first son and the surprise at how he changed our lives. Finding that God was so much more than we’d imagined and that obedience was sometimes costly. The joy of another son being added to our family and surprise at how life changed yet again. New countries and new experiences. Traveling the world together and staying home with the boys while Garry travelled. New friends and growing friendships. Experiencing God in everyday life and finding a relationship with Him that continues to change and grow and surprise us. Chaos and adjustment. New wisdom and continued growth. Experiences beyond our wildest dreams and sometimes pain greater than we knew existed.

My perception of the world and its size has changed dramatically. My thoughts on other people have been shaken to the core and re-organized. My relationship with God has been turned upside down. My value on family and friends has grown. My circle of friends stretches across the globe.

And the more I think about it, the more I realize that Garry has been near the center of most of these changes. Knowing him, living with him, has changed me. He has chosen the higher way and the better option again and again. He has chosen to grow continually. He has chosen to take this journey with me, and I am one blessed woman who is anticipating the next 25 years with excitement and joy.

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20 Comments

  1. Pearl Allard

    Wow, Cynthia! 25 years is a milestone! Happy Anniversary to you two and may God continue to bless and preserve the sacred union you share.

  2. What a lovely story of your life. I’m glad to get to know you folks – though it is only over the Internet. God bless you all abundantly.

    • Thank you, and I am so enjoying getting to know you also, Lisa! And I love the new look– or is it an entirely new blog? Way to go!

  3. Ken & Sue

    Well, said, Cynthia! Congratulations on the first 25! May your love just keep multiplying as you grow in your relationship with God and each other! Sending our love. Ken and Sue

    • Thank you! All the best to you also. Amazing what loving God does for our relationships, isn’t it?! Miss you all– stop by soon!

  4. Kim Dye

    That was excellent, Cynthia, I felt like you were describing some of my feelings in some instances. Thank you for sharing! By the way, Happy 25th Anniversary and Congratulations!!

    • Yes, our journeys have been somewhat similar. Congrats to you on 25 years also! One of these days our paths will cross again and that will be so much fun! Blessings, friend!

  5. Eric and Brenda German

    Amen and Amen!! God does it right as we allow Him to work! Congratulations!!

  6. Audrey

    “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Thank you for being a couple that exemplifies this truth. Congratulations and I wish you another 25!

  7. Wow, that’s amazing! Congrats! Always encourages me to hear about other couples and know that despite the hard times, we can make it. God’s best on the next 25!

    • Amen– I think we all need reminded that despite the rough spots, God is able. And seeing others making it to further on points in the journey is encouraging!

  8. Elaine Cullen

    Wonderful tribute! Love it! And a very Happy 25th Anniversary and praying for God to bless you with many more years together!

  9. Congratulations Cynthia. This is a beautiful tribute to your marriage.

  10. Pat Plett

    Belated Happy 25th!! Wonderful reflections! Wishing you many more years together!

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