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February Reflections on Success

At this time of year there is a huge focus on celebrating love, relationships, dating, and “successful” marriages. Since I get to celebrate my birthday in February, I get a big dose of spoiled this month. I enjoy every moment of it! Sometimes, though, when I tell my friends the latest amazing thing Garry has done for me, the response is a look of sadness. I wonder if they’re missing the kinds of things I am privileged to enjoy, but that’s seldom an appropriate question. Still it makes me think.

The other day it crossed my mind that I love Garry because he buys me coffee. Ok, not really.
It’s the fact that though he doesn’t enjoy the stuff, he goes to great lengths to get me good coffee. He goes out of his way when we’re headed to stressful meetings to make sure I have my favorite brew on the way. He takes me out for coffee sometimes, and while he may have a cup of tea or a snack, basically he is there just because I love having coffee with him. So, maybe it isn’t the coffee. Maybe it’s the way he lays his life down for me in a million small ways, in so many seasons and so many ways.

Really, I think this sacrifice is what every successful relationship is built on. It goes both ways, hopefully. It happens often. And maybe as much as either of those, it doesn’t go unnoticed. Because unnoticed acts of kindness and sacrifice are not appreciated. And every relationship has plenty of reasons for more negative emotions, so if we don’t take the time to notice the good things, the hard things can swallow us up.

Appreciating the good is not just for marriage either. It’s every relationship, including our relationship with God. It’s not whether God does good things for us, it’s whether we notice it. It’s not a question of God’s goodness, but of our perception of it. It isn’t about whether God answers prayer, but whether we notice when He does.

Experience tells me it is easy to expect and hard to appreciate. So I am practicing appreciating. And so far, it’s been a good and profitable journey!

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6 Comments

  1. Patricia Ann Dye

    THANKS FOR REMINDING US WHAT A GOOD MAN GOD HAS GIVEN TO YOU! I LOVE MY MAN TOO AND THANK GOD DAILY FOR HIS PATIENCE AND LOVE AND GOOD DEEDS DONE ON MY BEHALF!!! BLESSINGS ON YOU BOTH BUT HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR CYNTHIA! <3

  2. Netie

    Thanks for sharing!
    God is good! He has akso blessed me with an awesome, loving and caring husband!
    Blessings to you and Gary!

  3. Anonymous

    Thanks for sharing, Cynthia….not quite as good as sitting across the table with you in person, but the next best thing! Yes, Gary is definitely a keeper! I’ve got ‘a keeper’ too and my thankfulness and appreciation grows for him with each passing day. We are in Florida volunteering at NTM headquarters….though I’ve gotten a bad cold and haven’t been able to help much yet. Blessings coming your way…Sue Plett

    • Amen– the little things, they keep on growing the appreciation, don’t they?! Praying you get well and have a great time in Florida.

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